Friday, September 28, 2012

The Stories Continue

The day had finally come.  My daughter was leaving home for a 1-year scholarship grant in another continent— so very far, far away.

To put it mildly, we were all ecstatic. For almost a year, she had been seeking out all possible sources for an opportunity to study abroad. And she finally nailed a BIG one. It’s a dream come true for her and as parents we are bursting with pride.

A whirlwind of activities took place in the last two weeks leading to her departure date. Dental and medical check-ups, paperwork to secure a dorm to stay at, packing and unpacking and packing again.


Plus the rounds of despedida parties. All joyful and a bit intoxicating.

In between all these activities, my daughter installed Vtok, a computer program that would allow us to talk and see each other whenever there was need to touch base. We had fun practicing with her in her room and I in the kitchen.

Before I knew it, my hubby and I were taking her to the airport. There was much joking and lots of final instructions while on the road.

“Be sure to text when you arrive at your destination.”
“Get a reliable cab to take you to your dorm.”
“Always lock your doors.”
“Eat well.”
“Call us.”

So on a very rainy afternoon, I hugged my daughter one more time before she hurried on her way into the airport terminal with a trolley heavy with her bags and her dreams.

In the early hours of the following morning, I woke up. As is my habit, I went to my daughter’s room to check if she had come home from her night out with friends. The door was not locked. I peeked into the dark room and noticed the empty bed. It then hit me that she will not be home for a long while.

x o x o x o x o x o x o x

“Mommy, mommy, mommy!”, J called me in her playful sing-song tone. “Check out my room.”

She had arrived at her destination and was giving me a virtual tour of her accommodations.

“And look at the view from my window”, she adds as she moves her laptop camera to show a peaceful lake with lots of trees around it.

I gave out a sign of relief and thanked God for inspiring the inventors of the variety of amazing communication gadgets at our disposal. My daughter and I can continue our stories from where we left off.

Letting go is slowly becoming bearable.

x o x o x o x o x o x o x


On my daughter’s last day at home, she took the time to prepare a pasta dish for lunch. She had found the recipe on the internet.


The first time she prepared this dish, she had her friends over to the house to try it. They finished it all up. This was the second time for her to prepare this pasta dish and it also scored high points with my husband and I.

And what a coincidence that it should be named “Penne Al Telefono”. This is for the way the melted mozzarella cheese stretch and curl up like a telephone cord.



This dish will guarantee you stay connected with family and friends.

Penne Al Telefono

2 tbsp extra virgin olive oil
a small onion, chopped onion
1 clove garlic, chopped (more if you love garlic)
1 ½ c crushed tomatoes (you can used canned diced or crushed tomatoes)
2 tsp sugar
1/2 tsp fine salt
1/8 tsp pepper
1/2 cup water
1 chicken boullion cube
1 cup all purpose cream
1 cup grated mozzarella cheese
200 grams uncooked penne pasta


1. Cook penne pasta al dente or as directed in package.

2. Drain and toss with 1 tsp olive oil so it will not stick together. Set aside.



3. Heat pan and sauté onion and garlic until soft.

4. Add in crushed tomatoes (including the canned liquid) and water.

5. Season with sugar, salt, pepper and chicken cube.

6. Add water and simmer for 20 minutes or until thick.

7. Add in cream and simmer for another minute.



8. Put pasta in the pan, mix and add the cheese.

9. Mix for another 1-2 minutes and turn off fire. Transfer to serving dish.





Serve with store bought or home-made bread sticks…. ( slice up some bread, sprinkle with some dried herbs like basil and oregano. Don’t forget the salt and pepper. Drizzle some olive oil on it. Bake or toast until nice and crispy.)



Friday, September 21, 2012

Working the Faith


“So also faith of itself, if it does not have works, is dead.” James 2:17


During the last two months that I have been away from home, I have been steadfast in my habits to say my prayers at certain times of the day:  when I wake up, before meals, and in the early evenings. Religiously, I kept my promise to say the rosary at least once a day.  Attending Sunday masses was top priority.  I have also kept strong my devotion to our Mother of Perpetual Help.



 With so much prayers said, why did I feel as if I was missing out on something?

On my time away from home, I had spent a lot of time with my mother, siblings and friends.  No doubt about it I was happy in their company and in turn delighted that my company, my cooking, my help was very much welcomed.

So what could be missing? I continued to ask myself this question.

When I returned home, I immediately got back to my usual routine: 3 Cs. Cleaning. Cooking. Caring for the needs of my husband and daughter.  Being back home also meant getting back into the swing of things at my parish. Specifically, there was need for time to spend on the monthly mentoring program.  There was much catching up to do.  Because of my recent travels, I have taken a leave from actively participating in the  mentoring program for underprivileged children. In my absence,  I had endorsed the five grade 3 scholars assigned to me to a friend who was also a member of the program.

Finally I am active again. And on the designated 2nd Sunday of the month, it was time to meet my scholars.  At first, only two of the five were present.  Did my absence cause the other three to drift away from the program? But this thought was quickly replaced with much joy when one by one they joined my little group. My scholars were all present. 

I was excited to give them my pasalubong (gift).  I hoped that it would compensate for my absence.  I got them t-shirts with the Superman logo.  I explained that the t-shirts are to remind them that there was nothing they could not do if they put their mind to it.  



The scholars then got busy with the morning’s program.  In between their coloring activities, I asked them about how they were doing at school and if things were alright with their families.   


My heart was bursting with joy as I renewed connections with each of them. 

As I collected the colored works of the scholars, I understood.  What was missing was putting my faith into practice.  I had to work my faith. 

x o x o x o x o x o x o x
 
Being with my mother, siblings, husband and children do give me great joy.  For I know I have a place in their hearts.   But being with these children, knowing that they have nothing to give back in return, is a joy of a different level.     

x o x o x o x o x o x o x

The mentoring component of my parish’s scholarship program require that members of the committee or mentors to meet with the children on the 2nd Sunday of each month. This is appropriately called Mentoring Sunday.  For an hour and a half on Mentoring Sunday, working on an agreed agenda, the mentors meet up with their assigned scholars. Four to five scholars are assigned a mentor.  In the course of the school year,  the mentors hope to guide and motivate their scholars to do well in school as well as cultivate Christian values in them.  By doing so, a better future may open up to these children.

A few days prior to Mentoring Sunday, the mentors  meet up to finalize the agenda.  Possible topics for discussion are brought up.  Will there be singing or dancing? Will there be a special project to do? There is no lack of enthusiasm as each mentor bring up one idea after another.  
 
More often than not, there is food to be shared.  In the last meeting, I brought some banana-walnut cupcakes.  Sharing these tiny treats made for a productive ending.  



Banana- Walnut Cupcakes

 

3 very ripe bananas, mashed  (about 1 cup)
3/4 cup granulated sugar
1/2 cup light brown sugar, lightly packed
1/2 cup vegetable oil
2 extra-large eggs, at room temperature
1/2 T vinegar plus milk to make ½ c sour cream or you can use ½ c yoghurt
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
Grated zest of 1 orange
2 cups all-purpose flour
1 teaspoon baking soda
1/2 teaspoon kosher salt
1/2 cup coarsely chopped walnuts (optional)

Directions

Preheat the oven to 350 degrees.  Place cupcake paper liners on 2 cupcake pans (12 to a pan).

In the bowl , mix the mashed bananas


 and granulated sugar, and brown sugar until combined. 

Add the oil, eggs, sour cream, vanilla, and orange zest. 


Mix until smooth.

In a separate bowl, sift together the flour, baking soda, and salt. With care, add the dry ingredients to the wet ingredients and mix just until combined.  Ladle the batter into the prepared cupcake pan. At this point, you can sprinkle the chopped nuts on each of the cupcakes.



Bake for 15-20  minutes, or until a toothpick inserted in the center comes out clean. Cool in the pan for 5 minutes, remove to a cooling rack, and cool completely. 


Wednesday, September 12, 2012

When Serendipity took the Driver's Seat

My mother’s visits to the doctors were completed and we were taking separate weekend escapades. The time away from each other would be good as we both were firm believers that distance made the heart grow fonder.

And so it was arranged for my mother to spend a week with relatives who dearly missed her company.   I, in turn, was spending the weekend with my sister, G, in San Francisco (in California—not Camotes this time). G, who worked for the airlines, was flying in to spend the weekend with her son P. 

My nephew, P, and I drove all the way from Sacramento early Friday evening to meet up with G at a hotel conveniently located near the airport. There was no set plan on what we would do or where we would go for the weekend. We were letting serendipity take care of our itinerary.

The minute we let go of our expectations, serendipity immediately took over.

As is the practice of my sister, she had a maleta of food cooked by her loyal help in Manila. All we needed to do was heat it up in the hotel’s microwave oven. Best of all, two of her friends joined us for our cozy Pinoy dinner of Sinigang na Hipon, Ginataang Puso ng Saging, Ensalang talong, Inihaw na Bangus and a big pot of rice.


Where there are two or more Filipinos gathered together, you have a fiesta!!

Over home-made chocolate cake, I laughed at the stories of passengers gone wild, of pilots who were comedians, and quirks of famous personalities who took the flight. ( I would be a big fan if G started a blog on her experiences up in the sky)

I slept like a log that evening. Relaxed in the thought that the weekend began on a very happy note.

Being an early riser, I was up and done with breakfast at the hotel’s tiny kitchenette by 7AM. Upon entering my room, I heard the familiar beep of my celphone. It was a text message from my sister, M. She and her husband, J, were on their way to SFO with plans of going trekking in one of the parks. Would we like to join them? More importantly, could I get my sister, G, and her son up and ready for this sudden adventure.

As fate would have it, my sister, G, and my nephew, P, were just coming out of their deep sleep. When I told them of the text, they both quickly got dressed. And in a matter of minutes, M and J arrived. We all met up at a nearby diner to map out our day’s plan. As we let serendipity take over, the trekking activity was exchanged for a visit to Half-Moon Bay (HMB).

Normally, it would have taken only 15 minutes to get to HMB from the SFO airport but traffic slowed us down and we arrived at our destination 45 minutes later. It was a small price to pay for the experience that awaited us.

From the top of the cliff to the creamy sandy beach to the huge waves, there was but one word to describe the State Beach of HMB: breathtaking!


On that particular morning, we threw away our cares and cheered on a glider as he swept by us.




On the beach I let the waves chase me back to drier ground. And they almost got me.



I wondered what kind of fish will a solitary fisherman catch in these waters.




Along the beach were several clumps of mussels.  The Pinoy in me wondered if they were edible.



At the tip of the beach were huge boulders where my nephew, P, set up his tripod to capture the moment and give way to his passion.



By 2 o’clock, we were ready for lunch--- a big one. It took a bit of looking around at the city center of HMB. As with any tourist town, most of the main street restos were packed. With the aid of my nephew’s GPS, we found a Mexican restaurant, tucked in a quiet part of town, a distance away from the main road.



The restaurant had a homey feel.


We checked out the colorful decor as we settled into our chairs at the back patio area. The service was courteous and the food delicious.



There was a little scuffle on our table as we all grab for the chit when it came. J wanted to take care of it as he said we were his guests. I in turn countered that if he paid, G & I would not be riding with him on the way back to SFO—forgetting that we had taken only one car and left my nephew’s car back at the hotel. G immediately exclaimed to leave her out of the threat and that I was on my own.  She promptly handed money to the waitress who was observing us with great amusement. There was much laughter after that as we slowly made our way back to the car.

There was an assortment of eye-catching structures as we walked back to the car.

We passed a shed whose wall was full of metal renditions of sea animals;

a bed and breakfast place with a bed made of flowers;



and a Methodist church built in 1872 with quaint stained glass windows.


Reluctantly, we piled into the car for our ride back to the hotel. This time it took all of 15 short minutes to get back.

It was the end of the adventure for M and J as they said their good-byes before taking off on a 2-hour drive back home. Meanwhile, G, P and I continued with out adventure as we got into P’s car.

Since we have seen the usual touristy sights in SFO, we decided to try our luck at the local thrift stores in the area. In a way, it's an adventure of a different kind.  The adventure could lead to a discovery of a book of poems I have been dying to have; other times, I just have a big smile as I remember that I have the same junk back home.  Once at the stores, I had to strengthen my resolve to put back the delicate cup and saucer or return to the shelf a heavy hard bound cookbook. Yet, I still managed to walk out of the stores with beautiful finds— a shirt that still had store tag on it,




a funky 1940s brooch and necklaces (as told to me by the sales clerk)-- all for under $12.




With time to spare, we decided to drive up to the highest point of SFO to take in the view of the city. But the fog was so thick, it was impossible to see anything. Still it was an experience to be enveloped by all that fog and getting chilled to the bones. (not so chilly for couples whose cars were descreetly parked at a distance)



By 8 o’clock, darkness had finally descended. One last adventure awaited us and that was to find parking close to Boudin for it’s famous clam chowder.




Like little kids, reluctant to go to bed, we dragged our feet back to the car. But not until after we enjoyed the antics of street entertainers doing a good imitation of Michael Jackson.


Later as I laid down on my bed in my hotel room, it occurred to me that the best adventures are the ones that are spontaneous-- it's when you let serendipity take the driver's seat.

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Back at my sister’s, M, house, I decided to take a chance that I could come up with a chowder to go with the bistek I prepared. Although I did not have clams on hand, a quick check of the pantry shelf yielded a can of corn. This would do nicely with some potatoes, carrots and bacon.

Here’s what I did.

In a small pot, I sautéed some minced garlic with some sliced onions. I then added about 4 strips of chopped bacon. Once the bacon crisped up a bit, I poured in the can of corn. As it gently simmered, I mixed in about half a cup of cubed potatoes. I increased the liquid by added a cup of chicken broth. I let the mixture simmer until the potatoes became tender. I dropped in a handful of diced carrots and let the soup continue to simmer.

In a separate pan, I melted about two tablespoons of butter. I then added 2 tablespoons of flour and briskly stirred the mixture up. I then poured in a cup of warm milk and stirred the mixture up until it thickened.  This is what chefs call a roux.

I next incorporated the roux into the soup and gently stirred it up. I added salt and pepper to give it the final touch. The soup was deliciously thick in consistency and ready to be served.




So do take a chance and try your hand with this simple recipe. Who knows, maybe the gamble you take will pay you big dividends in the form of praises for a job well done.

Tuesday, September 4, 2012

Reversal of Roles

My mother was opening cabinets in the kitchen.  It was still early in the morning and she was looking forward to her morning cup of coffee. But she needed to find the kettle to boil water in. There is a microwave oven that could easily heat up some water but my mother was afraid she might set my sister’s house on fire. Lately, it takes so little to make her anxious. And being in a kitchen that is not hers made her uneasy.

If not for the need to seek a second medical opinion in the States, my mother would be puttering around her kitchen in Cebu. She would have easily prepared her coffee by then.

For the duration of the visit, I was her companion. While my sister, M, and her husband, J, went off to work each day, having someone to spend the days with in a house not her own made the visit bearable for my mother.

Luckily, another sister, V, was available to drive for my mother during the days of her medical appointments.


Going to the Doctor

It also was a relief for her that she had someone to fill out the forms required before a medical examination can be conducted to validate results on tests she had done in Cebu. Lately, questionnaires, forms, and interviews intimidate my mother.

As we sat at the waiting room of the laboratory and at the doctor’s office, I could not help remembering the many times my mother accompanied me to the doctor’s office. I was and still am such a scaredy cat. There were countless times she held my hand when I had to be given a vaccine shot. There was also the time she flew in from Cebu to arrive at my bedside a few minutes before they wheeled me into the operating room. And how could I ever forget the scandalous time I screamed for her as I was in labor with my first child. Demanding “I want my mommy”.

Calmly my mother waited and when her name was called, she confidently walked into the doctor’s office knowing that she had two daughters who would be with her when the doctor explained her condition to her.

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The visit to the doctor happened almost a month ago. The doctor is optimistic that all will be well but there is need to monitor my mother’s health. Meanwhile, my mother is happily back in Cebu in familiar surroundings doing the things she loves.

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My mother may be getting more forgetful as the years go by. But there are some things she will never forget: the names of the people who owe her money; and, her skill at whipping up delicious dishes with the simplest of ingredients.

While in the States, I was her kitchen assistant. My task was to put out the chopping board, the knife, the ingredients and the pans. Once these were ready, she would begin and would rather I stayed a short distance away so as not to crowd her. I would only be called in when she needed for me to increase or decrease the heat of my sister’s range.


My mother allowing a sister to help her

Of the many dishes she prepared while we visited, the following soup is one that my siblings and I enjoy for the comfort and satisfaction it brought us --- not to mention the large amount of rice we end up consuming. Best paired with crispy fried budburon (Visayan) or galonggong (Tagalog) or scad (English).

Mother’s Pork Sinigang

1 kilo pork (preferably with bone—ribs would do fine) or 1 kilo chicken ( i prefer drumsticks and thighs)
1 lemon grass bulb
2 thumb-size ginger, sliced
1 onion, sliced
3 cloves garlic, sliced
2 jalapeno or sili pahaba or espada
2 bunches of spinach, washed
1-2 t Knorr sinigang mix (amount will depend on how sour you want your soup to be)
Salt and pepper

Place the meat, the lemon grass and ginger in a pot and add water to cover. After bringing to a quick boil, lower the fire to allow the water to simmer. Continue to cook until meat is tender. Remove and place in a bowl.

In the same pot, add a tablespoon of cooking oil and sauté the onion and garlic. Once done, return back the meat and the resulting broth. Add the jalapeno, some knorr sinigang mix and simmer for about 10 minutes. Add salt and pepper to taste.

Add the spinach and cover the pot to allow the steam to wilt the spinach for another 5-10 minutes. Adjust the seasoning and once to your liking, transfer to a soup bowl.

Serve piping hot.


Pork Sinigang

Chicken Sinigang

Monday, September 3, 2012

Plenty of Nothing

The time on my celphone read 5AM. It is still dark and I hear water gush out of the faucet in the bathroom next to my room. Doors are opened and muffled sounds come from the kitchen downstairs. I hear the whirling sound of the garage door opening and after a few seconds the house is quite again.

I snuggled deeper into the thick comforter and went back to sleep.

“It’s 7 o’clock. Time to get up,” the alarm on my celphone announces just when my dream was getting complicated.

A little bit disoriented, I slowly remember that I was still in the States and in the house of my sister and her husband. My mother, whom I had accompanied on the trip over, had gone off for the week to visit with relatives. My sister, her husband and 2 nephews had left early as was their habit during the work week.

I was alone in a big and very quiet house.

I begin the day with setting T and M, the Maltese dogs of my sister, free from the garage. They will be my companions for the rest of the day. They will follow me as I get a glass of water, as I go out to the patio to read and reflect on the gospel for the day, as I eat my breakfast of yoghurt and fruits,




and as I fill my morning with light house work. They will sit very close to me—on my lap or at my feet or sometimes on top of the sofa where I sit to watch teevee


or read the many enticing magazines on home and food.



Occasionally T and M would start rushing to the door when they sense that a vehicle had stopped by the driveway. It’s just the mailman.

Some days on that week alone, I go out for a walk around the neighborhood. Unlike in my neighborhood back home, I hardly see or hear anyone moving about. There seems to be no activity going on inside each of the houses. The gardens are immaculate. Nothing out of place. So perfect, not a leaf or flower out of place.



The automatic water sprinklers are sometimes all the sound I hear. I feel like I am the only one around in some “Twilight Zone” teevee episode. Where is everyone?

Back at home after a quick lunch of left-overs, I settle in with a double scoop of ice cream


 before I spend some quality time with Don Drapper…. the main character of “Mad Men”—a series I have developed an addiction to.



Will his wife leave him? How will the company keep that big advertising account from going to the competitor? What exactly is brewing between a voluptuous secretary and one of the company directors? All these questions are soon answered one by one as I go from one episode to the next for most of the afternoon. T and M caring less what happens to Don, stay dozing close by.

As I go to the kitchen for some juice and a snack, the clock on the microwave oven show that it is 3 in the afternoon. It is time to get busy with dinner.  Don will have to wait.

One by one they arrive. A nephew back from school; my sister closely followed by her husband arrive from work; and, an hour later, another nephew come through the kitchen from the garage to mark the end of another day. And as luck would have it, another sister comes in later to join us for dinner.

The table is set and soon we all sit down to an early dinner. I am eager to hear about how their day went.


As we each retire to our bedrooms, my last thoughts before I fell asleep were the words stitched on a sampler displayed on a kitchen side table.  



It was indeed a beautiful week.
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My week alone was like a retreat.  It gave me the silence I needed to hear myself think and time to reflect on life in general.  I found that I am good company. Time alone also intensified my appreciation of the people that come back into my life at the end of each day.

Here is one of the dish I prepared that week. It got the most positive raves. This dish can be prepared well ahead of time. It actually taste better with a little time in the fridge. Not only will you have more time for yourself but after your family or friends have a taste of this dish,  they will reward you with these three words: "That was delicious."


Afritada of Mine

2 1/4 pounds or 1 kilo meat (may be all pork or all chicken or a combination of pork and chicken), cut into serving pieces

2 tablespoons soy sauce
1/2 lemon, juiced ( or about 2 T of calamansi juice)
3 tablespoons olive oil
1 big potato, quartered
2 tablespoons olive oil
1 onion, chopped
2 cloves garlic, minced
2 large tomatoes, diced
½ c tomato sauce
½ can of liver spread/pate
1 chicken buillion dissolved in 1 cup of hot water
Additional water (optional)
1 green bell pepper, cut into chunks
½ green peas (frozen or canned)
salt and ground black pepper to taste
DIRECTIONS:

1. Place the meat in a large pot; pour enough water into the pot to cover the meat. Stir the soy sauce and lemon juice into the water. Bring the mixture to a boil for 5 minutes. Remove the meat and set aside. Discard the liquid.

2. Heat 3 tablespoons olive oil in a large skillet over medium-high heat; fry the potatoes in the hot oil until golden brown, 7 to 10 minutes. Add 2 more tablespoons olive oil to the skillet and allow to get hot. Cook and stir the onion and garlic in the hot oil until fragrant, 3 to 5 minutes. Add the meat to the skillet; cover and cook for 5 minutes. Stir the tomatoes, liver spread/pate and the tomato sauce into the mixture. Stir to dissolve 1 chicken buillion cube in 1 cup of hot water. Add this to the skillet. Simmer the mixture over very low fire until the meat is tender.




Add more water so as the dish will be saucy. Return the potatoes to the skillet and continue to simmer. When the potatoes are tender, add the green bell pepper and the peas. Season with salt and pepper. Cook and stir another 5 minutes.

3. Remove from heat and serve with lots of steaming white rice.